Monday, October 6, 2008

Keeping a Home

Our Hostess: Chelsie at Joyfully Living

Today's Topic:
Keeping the Home

"These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes, to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God." Titus 2:4-5

Another version says "keepers at home." I looked up the root to the word keeper, which is - a guard, be "ware." The definition throughout the Bible is "caring for the house or working at home," which means: a) the watch or keeper of the house, b) keeping at home and taking care of household affairs and c) a domestic (relating to the family or household).

At the Well is a little different for me today. Since Chelsie is focusing on (b), keeping a clean and tidy home, today is one of those days when I am acutely aware that I am one of "the younger women." A day when I admit that I have much more to learn, than I have to share. My ears are open and I am ready to be trained!

I decided I would share a quick story, and then mosey on over to the other women at the well and see what wisdom they have to share with me. My story begins in January of this year, when I really felt God telling me to stop doing things that kept me away from my home and my family. As hard as that was for me to hear, I was sure it wouldn't be forever, and even my husband called it a season.

These words from the Bible about a wife of character were critical in my decision:

"She carefully watches everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness. Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her: “There are many virtuous and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all!” Proverbs 31:27-29

While many people might have given me praise for all the "capable" things I was doing, I was sure my husband and children weren't one of them. As a wise woman once said, "You can't do a hundred things well." So in an effort to get my priorities straight, I took a break from extracurricular activities.

It wasn't easy at first. Being busy was a habit I had formed. But eventually, what a difference it made in my attitude! I went from looking at making meals and doing housework as a burden, to seeing it as a way to bless my family. I began to understand that this is my responsibility, that God has given me. And because it is God-given, it is just as important as my self-given responsibilities. No, it is more important.

I'm starting to treasure time with my family. I realize this time with my girls will come to an end soon enough. At some point, they will grow and move on. This season is a wonderful one that I have been given to bless them, teach them and model what a wife of noble character looks like.

OK, now for the practical stuff. I'm on my way to learn from the other women at the well....


LAURIE said...

Wonderful post today AT THE WELL. So many things can take our attention off of the important things such as those sweet babies of yours. Savor each moment as they will be grown in no time ...taking care of our home is also how well we take care of those young ones. -Blessings, Laurie

lori said...

oh are far wiser than you let on;)

"It wasn't easy at first. Being busy was a habit I had formed. But eventually, what a difference it made in my attitude!" I think that many of us fall into that if being at home isn't enough...especially if we are educated...
How wise you were to see that through the eyes of God...

Wonderful taught us today:) There are so many times when I wish I could return to those days...I LOVE the ages my kids are now, but I do miss that....enjoy every single second...

JesusRulzMe said...

Hello precious sister,

God has so blessed you with graceful wisdom that you shared here today...I agree with Lori! And I was actually thinking the SAME thing about the SAME quote Lori referred to.

I think we've all been there, done that and sometimes wonder...but then we have our beautiful babies in front of us and we know that this is the greatest job on earth!

Yes, enjoy this precious, precious time with your babies. I did what you're doing "redeeming the time" and I have no regrets of the past, which allows me great freedom to enjoy what I have with them now!

Bless you dear sister,

Debra said...

Oh sweet sister,

You are very wise indeed! Knowing that the busy-ness can rob you of so much is a very mature stand and one your children will benefit from so much!

What a sweet heart you have and I enjoyed reading it here today. May the Lord bless you, sweet one!

Homesteader in Training said...

Right on! It's so true when you said,
"You can't do a hundred things well."
I used to think that unless people could "see" it then it wasn't worth doing well. But boy you let behind your bed or toilet or fridge go and it gets really dirty lol.
You asked me about meal planning.One thing I started doing is that I got involved with the Menu Plan Monday Meme. That post was actually under my At the Well post. I think about my week on Sunday and post my dinners on MOnday. I started a cooking blog and you are welcome to take a peek at it. The link is on my side bar. Would love to hear from you again.
Blessings to you and keep up the good work that God has called you to do.

Julie said...

That is such a beautiful truth that you spoke, Rebecca! I truly needed this encouragement today. Thank you for sharing this.